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Tips to Help with Lack of Patience

Does anyone have any tips on how to increase patience?

What I tend to tell people is that before I was born, I was too impatient to stand in the line for patience so I skipped it all together... I'm paying for it now.  I'm probably the most impatient person I know. 

Working with some of the buyers I've had to work with in the past (and present) have definitely tested my patience and I do the best I can.  I smile and nod with them, and at home, I get to throw things and slam things, and vent my frustration... but that scares the dog, and it's really scaring my husband.

So, any tips on how to become more patient, besides taking a few deep breaths and counting to 10 because that just makes me light headed to breathe so much.

I'm also writing this because I have two more days until I find out the sex of my baby and it's down right killing me!!!  I had every opportunity to schedule the appt a couple of weeks ago, but I thought it was a cute idea to wait until the morning of my birthday.  Boy, was I not thinking when I made that decision.  Ever since July 1 hit, I've been counting down the days, and trying to keep busy and not think about it, but when people ask 10 times a day, it makes time go slower...

PLEASE HELP GRANT ME SOME PATIENCE!!!

Comment balloon 18 commentsDonna Harris • July 09 2007 03:29PM

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Nix the caffeine, exercise, do yoga, meditate.  Also, like any exercise, you've got to practice to get good at it.

Posted by Cameron Bagherpour, Raleigh North Carolina (Cary & Raleigh, NC) about 11 years ago
Oh boy. Your in for it now. I never knew I was short on patience until I had children. Kids REALLY test your patience, but they are the ones who need you to be patient the most. I wish you and your baby luck with you growing more patient. My advice is not to act out but to walk away until your feeling more yourself.
Posted by Julie McLaughlin (Staging Chico) about 11 years ago
Donna....I wish I had a good answer for you, but my first reaction is......you have a baby on the way (congrats) and patience will be something you must start practicing NOW....wink.  You have all the obvious reasons, but also consider the fact that it is for your health and the baby's that you take those deep breathing exercises.  I would also suggest a good mantra.....meditation (if you are patient enough) can do wonders.  Ask for a coupon at your shower for a good medidation class/coach session or two :-) 
Posted by Stacie Jordan (Retired) about 11 years ago

I have some tips on how to increase patience.

I'll tell you later.

Posted by John Lockwood (Lockwood Real Estate) about 11 years ago

Cameron, I wish there was caffeine involved.  Cut that out 12 years ago...  Yes, I do exercise, but even then, I find myself constantly watching the clock instead of just relaxing and enjoying my swim or my walk.  "I'm in a hurry to get things done.  I rush and rush until life's no fun...."  That song is my life!

Julie, Thank you.  I do practice the walking away with my husband... with a clinched fist.

Stacie, Thank you.  The mantra I usually say is "Breathe in, Breathe out, Repeat."  People laugh when I start doing it, and it does calm me, to an extent.  I guess they laugh because I have to remind myself to actually breathe. 

John,  That is not funny!!!!  TELL ME NOW!!!

Posted by Donna Harris, Realtor,Mediator,Ombudsman,Property Tax Arbitrator (Donna Homes, powered by JPAR - TexasRealEstateMediationServices.com) about 11 years ago
One that I've heard many times and tried to practice myself is to not become attached to the outcome.  It's very hard for me, as I'm sure it is for most, but when my buyers are frustrating, it sure helps.  
Posted by Nathan Blair about 11 years ago
Nathan, I've tried that one, but maybe not hard enough.  I get so emotionally attached and want everything to work out for the best, so it's hard to stay too far away from the outcome because then I don't truly believe my own negotiations on why terms should be a certain way... definitely taking notes to work on this. Thanks.
Posted by Donna Harris, Realtor,Mediator,Ombudsman,Property Tax Arbitrator (Donna Homes, powered by JPAR - TexasRealEstateMediationServices.com) about 11 years ago
Donna, it's the hormones  !! Let us know what your baby is ? Patience is one of those virtues we learn the hard way. Tests, tests and more tests.
Posted by Missy Caulk, Savvy Realtor - Ann Arbor Real Estate (Missy Caulk TEAM) about 11 years ago
I play chess, it has helped me a lot.  The combination of concentration and patience are required skills and it works for me.
Posted by Randy Prothero, Hawaii REALTOR, (808) 384-5645 (eXp Realty) about 11 years ago

Missy, I'll definitely be blogging when I find out what the baby is!  I wish there was a secret to patience that doesn't require tests.  How long did some people sit in that line to be able to have so much patience without learning it... must have been hundreds of years of past lives!

Randy, I guess my playing freecell doesn't count?  Freecell helps me calm down when I'm angry, but it definitely doesn't help with patience... but that is a two person "sport" and would require getting someone else involved.  My husband does wood working and actually made a chess board (for decoration in our living room), but maybe I need to get him to actually play it with me.  Thanks!

Posted by Donna Harris, Realtor,Mediator,Ombudsman,Property Tax Arbitrator (Donna Homes, powered by JPAR - TexasRealEstateMediationServices.com) about 11 years ago

I am extremely patient and I know an agent that asked me to do something for them and I said, Ok.

They needed some work done on their laptop and I said I would help but I would be downstairs and they said, ok, I'll be right down,

They showed up about 30 minutes later and I had a group of people hovering around the desk I was sitting at shoting the breeze.  Well this agent butts right in and pushes the lasptop in front of me pushing me to work on it right then and there,

I said when I am done here I will look at it. They gave me a big sigh as they wanted me to fix it right then and now.

Well, the people around me split right away and I calmly fixed it but this person has no patience whatso ever and was quite rude.

Sometimes impatience can be construde as being rude, just be careful. LOL

Posted by Jay McGillicuddy, Real Estate Broker (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty) about 11 years ago

My mother had a needlepoint hanging in her kitchen that pretty much summed up her philosophy:  "Lord, give me patience.  And I want it RIGHT NOW!" 

I found that breeding horses, making wine, and raising children helped a lot in the patience department.  Those are things that, no matter how impatient you are, simply won't be hurried, and trying to hurry any of them pretty much guarantees a bad outcome.  So you HAVE to learn.   I think in a lot of ways it's about learning that you don't have control of everything and that you even shouldn't have control of everything, no matter how much you think you want to and should, and that it's all right if you don't, the world will still continue to revolve and sometimes do things better than it would have if you were in control.

Find something that you're passionate about that has the same requirement.  The passion is so that you'll have a definite reward for learning the necessary patience. 

 

Posted by Tricia Jumonville, Texas REALTOR , Agent With Horse Sense (Bradfield Properties) about 11 years ago

Donna...

I, too, am expecting early this fall - a baby boy on Sept 26 to be exact! I already have a 5 year old, and working the last 2 years has been relatively easy. I'm getting worried about working full time with a newborn though.

Anyways, my patience has been tested many times over the last few months. This may sound cheesy, but YOGA has helped wonders!! It's become something I've really started to look forward to. I leave yoga feeling a better, more patient, person. It's not for everyone, and I certainly didn't think it would work for me, but it does! Best of luck waiting out the remaining days until you find out the sex...your due date will be here before you know it!

Posted by Kim Dean, d + b real estate, McKinney, TX REALTOR Broker/Own (www.RealFamilyRealEstate.com) about 11 years ago

Donna:

Having a lot of patients is a good thing. I once knew a doctor that didn’t have enough patients and had to stop practicing. :)

 

Posted by » Bill Burress Nationwide Mortgage Originator (» Bill Burress Nationwide Mortgage Originator) about 11 years ago

Hey Kim

September 26th is a great date...it is also my birthday!  Best of luck on a speedy delivery.

Donna

I understand you are on your last nerve. This is a very trying time for you. And while there is no magic bullet to rage control and some things like meditation may work,for some people; the bottom line is your baby feels everything you do. So when you are blowing your top....the baby not only hears it, but it feels it. The increase in your blood pressure affects the baby too. So, would you yell at a newborn? No. Remember, at the present time, there are TWO of you. You and the baby. You are a unit. Whatever you feel, eat, or do, your passenger is experiencing as well.  Knowing this, will calm you down a lot. You will still want to have a fit, but your baby would prefer you listen to calming music instead.  Actually soft classical has been shown to be very soothing to infants, in particular Mozart.  I would suggest as you feel the tide of tension rising, to make a point to put your feet up, have a cool beverage, and listen to something soothing. Sort of a take 5 for the baby break. Both of you will benefit inthe long run.

I had TWINS-worked 60 hours a week up to the day I delivered so I know whatof I speak.

You will be fine, but you have to make a decision for the baby...decide whatever it is that is making you irate, is not worth it. If it won't matter in a year, pass on the anger-express.

Posted by Allison Stewart, St. Cloud Fl Realtor, Osceola County Real Estate 407-616-9904 (St.Cloud Homes ) about 11 years ago
I find myself short on patience also.  I am nice and show plenty of patience with clients the blow when I go home.  My husband fortunately understands this is how I let off steam but it's time to learn how to change that habit.  I'm still looking and working on it.
Posted by Sybil Holcomb (Ayres Realty) about 11 years ago

Jay, I'm kinda like that with my husband.  But only because he'll say he'll be right there and help and it's 30 minutes later, or an hour, and at that time, I'm frustrated... but if I was asking someone else for help and they helped out of the kindness of their heart like you did, I would definitely be patient and try my hardest not to look at my watch.  Funny, batteries in all three of my watches died 2 weeks ago, and I've gone without a watch since... it's very hard to not know what time it is at all times!

Tricia, Sounds like something that takes a look of patience to learn.  Though I'm sure it's all worth it when they lick your face in appreciation.

Kim, I've tried Yoga stuff before, and I just watch the clock. I think that's part of ADD.  I get bored and breathing so slowly for so long doesn't shut my brain off... Thanks for the idea though. And CONGRATS on the baby BOY!

Bill, I know a doctor that has way too much patience and will turn a 10 minute appt into over an hour while his waiting room fills up.  He doesn't care that people have been waiting hours for their appts, because he enjoys talking to each of his patience... I will only see him if I'm the first appt of the morning.

Allison, that is definitely a different way to look at it.  I know it can hear me, but didn't really realize it knew when I was angry or calm. Thanks.  I had a dream a couple of nights ago that I was having TWIN boys... we'll see tomorrow!

Sybil, At least I'm not the only crazy one!!  I have a closing this morning where I raised my voice at these buyers many times, because I couldn't hold it in any longer talking with them, and they actually responded better to my raised voice than my calm voice.  I wouldn't suggest that unless you know the buyers well, but in this case, they were parents of other clients I have worked with for over 2 years, and they understood my frustration. Other than that, I slam phones down and I huff and puff upstairs in my office (double checking I actually hit the hangup button so they can't hear me)!

 

Posted by Donna Harris, Realtor,Mediator,Ombudsman,Property Tax Arbitrator (Donna Homes, powered by JPAR - TexasRealEstateMediationServices.com) about 11 years ago

Does anyone have any tips on how to increase patience?

 

Delivery usually helps solve this problem.

 

*ducking*

Posted by Tom Burris, Texas/Louisiana Mortgage Pro - 13 YRS Experience (NMLS# 335055) about 11 years ago

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