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Do You Make Waves or Go with the Flow?

Do you tend to just go with the flow, or are you one to create some ripples in the smooth water and make some waves?

Me, I make waves.  I left corporate world to become my own boss to not just go with the flow.  I was speaking with someone this afternoon and he was all up in my face about how I needed to calm down, chill, and go with the flow more.

Why?

Why should I say things to make other people happy?  Why am I not allowed to say things that make me happy?  I don't have a boss telling me how to behave, though I do get called into my Broker's office every so often and I always think I'm in trouble when it happens, but they usually want my opinions on something.

Why do they want my opinions?  Because I'm honest.  I don't cherry coat.  I don't milk things in my favor.  I don't give a "political" response that's meaningless.

I'm blunt, and I give straight forward, honest answers.

If I wanted to go with the flow, I would return to corporate world and brown some more noses and pucker up.  Too many people blindly follow the person in front of them for no reason because they think they're supposed to.

Did you know that if you're driving and going with the flow, you can still get pulled over and get a ticket even if you tried to not go with the flow?  Why?  Everyone else is driving fast.  But it doesn't matter.  The flow was in the wrong, and it takes more than one "ripple" to get people to change the flow, but since the flow isn't changing, the person causing the ripple gets punished.

If you want a Realtor who will also be honest with you and give actual opinions, and not political responses, I'm the Realtor for you!

Comment balloon 14 commentsDonna Harris • December 30 2008 09:21PM

Comments

Oooo Donna good blog and a thought provoking question. I often times like to think I make waves but am a go with the flow type of perosn.

Posted by Heather the Realtor Orlando, Lake Mary, First Time Home Buyers, Bank Owned Homes (LemonTree Realty) almost 10 years ago

It takes all kinds....but it helps if you deliver the info in the way the receiver BEST receives it....the DISC thing....you can have your fire, or your passion, maybe just adjust the delivery for the recipient?

Posted by Pat Tasker, Your Milwaukee Metro Area Agent (WI) (Shorewest Realtors) almost 10 years ago

I just ride a steady stream of consciousness and let my heart be my compass..I don't feel capable of being a CAUSE, only a reflection of ONE.

Posted by Mara Hawks, Inactive-2012 REALTOR - Homes for Sale Auburn Real Estate, AL (First Realty Auburn ) almost 10 years ago

Donna, what a great way to view life and act on it. Honesty and integrity are great traits to have.

Posted by Eric McGowan almost 10 years ago

Heather, It's great that you can admit that to yourself.

Pat, I'm a high D, so it's hard for me to S it.

Mara, Interesting perspective, thank you.

Eric, Yes they are, thank you!

Posted by Donna Harris, Realtor,Mediator,Ombudsman,Property Tax Arbitrator (Donna Homes, powered by JPAR - TexasRealEstateMediationServices.com) almost 10 years ago

I left the corporate world after many years for the same reason...It's rediculous that everything is controlled and you have to be a puppet, not an individual with great new idea's...No wonder so many businesses end up in Chapter 11/13, and why the world is in this mess.  New idea's...well, geeze that's too much work...we'd just rather go with the flow...AFTER ALL, "EVERYONE IS USE TO IT?"

RIGHT!  That doesn't mean it's working well...don't even get me started!!!!  Good post.

Posted by Karen Monsour, REALTOR, SSRS - Sells FL Waterfront, Short Sale Expert! (Coldwell Banker Fort Lauderdale Beach) almost 10 years ago

LOL... This post wasnt a response to your banning earlier today was it !?!?!?!?!!? ;o)

... well put - Honesty & Integrity lead my charge too...

Posted by Sheldon Neal, That British Agent Bergen County NJ (Bergen County, NJ - RE/MAX Real Estate Limited) almost 10 years ago

Karen, Great response, thank you!  I used to get hammered in corporate world for thinking outside the box.  Heaven forbid they try to do something different.

Sheldon, Oh no no no... the banning issue is for another blog later in the week.  I would hate for them to lock me out of my system early when I have 26 hours left.

Posted by Donna Harris, Realtor,Mediator,Ombudsman,Property Tax Arbitrator (Donna Homes, powered by JPAR - TexasRealEstateMediationServices.com) almost 10 years ago

I don't see anything wrong with giving a politically correct blunt answer from time to time. Being straight forward isn't a talent or special skill, even though some choose not to do it while others wish they had the wits & personality to even attempt it. I admire those that know when & how to to be blunt by saying & doing less. I've had far to many bad experiences where fist pounding and shouting on key boards and telephones got me nothing more than a nasty dose of increased blood pressure.

I know a few people who think it's their job to "tell it how it is" They do this ALL the time. The reward of doing this comes with a price or should I say endless casualties. People don't like people who constantly lay it all down - all the time. I've been trying to curb this for myself for years. Each year I get a little better, but not by much.

I remember thinking about how I was going to chew somebody out for days before doing so once. I was all in the right. The person deserved it and knew it. Before I grabbed my nasty words and thoughts I was convinced by someone much older and wiser than me that convinced me to say almost nothing, because sometimes the less you say the more you say. I know that's probably sounding so whatever to you but I can tell you that it worked for me.

When I feel like yelling at my wife I email her. Then I delete the email before it goes anywhere. When I'm done I feel much better. When I get home, I'm usually greeted with an apology instead of a counter attack.

Venting feels great. Slamming your hand down and firing off shots at every opportunity falls on deaf ears, even for the person doing it. I suppose after you shout enough, you don't hear yourself very well so you feel the need to be louder next time.

Life is just to short to prove every single little point, which reminds me ... I've haven't eaten today.

Nice blog Donna, thanks for the interesting subject.

Posted by Greg Nino, Houston, Texas (RE/MAX Compass, formerly RE/MAX WHP) almost 10 years ago

Donna, I personally am an initiator so I suppose that makes me a Make Waves person.

Posted by Gary Woltal, Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth (Keller Williams Realty) almost 10 years ago

Greg, I also go over and over again in my head before I let someone have it.  Sometimes I let them have it, other times I don't.  Many times when I don't, I always run the woulda coulda shoulda through my head for days afterwards.  I don't smile and nod and move on and going to counceling the last couple of years didn't change that.

Gary, Good for you!

Posted by Donna Harris, Realtor,Mediator,Ombudsman,Property Tax Arbitrator (Donna Homes, powered by JPAR - TexasRealEstateMediationServices.com) almost 10 years ago

Life would be boring without some waves... don't sit back and go with the flow. Speak your mind!

Posted by Donna Harris (RE/MAX) almost 10 years ago

Being honest is what is paramount here. What other people expect you to say or find acceptable for you to say are simply not relevant. The only thing I do when I get mad, is I will sleep on it before a response. That might mean I write an e-mail - but I won't hit the "send" button until the next day when i can read it again. I usually send it, but I like what I call the "air lock of time" to consider. great blog Donna.

Posted by Simon Conway (Orlando Area Real Estate Services) almost 10 years ago

Dallas, Thanks, I agree.

Simon, I do that to an extent too.  I might not wait untill morning, but I'll sometimes wait several hours before sending something and I'll read it many times over. I'll read it in many ways also to see how it could be interpretted, along with reading it out loud.  Sometimes, no matter what, an email can still be read in whatever tone the reader wants to read it in.

Posted by Donna Harris, Realtor,Mediator,Ombudsman,Property Tax Arbitrator (Donna Homes, powered by JPAR - TexasRealEstateMediationServices.com) almost 10 years ago

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